I had a similar experience with a early girlfriend. She had me convinced that I was going mad and all the while she was manipulating me , sleeping all around her, cutting me off from my old friends and all the while telling me I was just paranoid. I thought I loved her so she sorta had me half convinced.I don't doubt women are also abusers, but to suggest coercive control is asking a partner to not go to the pub you're completely missing the point. To have someone destroy any self-confidence you had, spend your time trying to avoid conflict, putting their needs before your own, contradicting what you know to be true, being anxious and being disgusted by your own body. In the best case scenario you eventually can get the strength to walk away, but the damage is done. I was aware what he was doing and spent years trying to explain exactly how he was damaging me. Counselling definitely helped and having my family and friends there to support me. I don't hide what happened to me. I wouldn't want my worst enemy to go through that, so if some randomer on Twitter wants people to report this behaviour, go ahead.
All from a woman who was half my size who I could crush like an aunt.
It took me years to trust anyone again.
Women can be just as big manipulators as men and cause just as much psychological damage. I look back now and can hardly believe the mess she had me in.