Things that grind my gears is when people try to turn men and women against each other. Men and Women are different in many ways but we are both equal. I don't like when some people put down Women or get the two genders fighting about who is better. Noone is better.
Agree no point if it's hassle but the "added value" sounds a bit selfish. What if you can add value to their life with no extra hassle to yourself?
Maybe I'm just misreading what you are trying to say.....
